Memories replay in your head like bad news on TV. You wonder if he or she ever really loved you. Then you remind yourself that you’re trying forget all that and move on. But how? Here are tips from people who have been where you are, and are happy now:
1) Throw it out. Give that sweatshirt to Good Will. Search for every email and computer file that has to do with them, and delete them. Then don’t forget to empty your recycle bin!
2) Get out. Find some new fun and new friends in new places. In some cases, you may need to move before healing can really begin.
3) Get together with your friends. Have some honest fun in a big group, rather than trying to find a date right away
4) Let yourself cry. This doesn’t mean lock yourself up for days going through photo files. Just don’t beat yourself up for letting it hurt. This is a process, and you need time to grieve.
5) Seek support from the successful. Everyone needs to vent, but don’t ask your single friends for advice. Turn to happily married friends and relatives for the unique help they can offer.
6) Chase other dreams. Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do. Then pick one, and go do it.
7) Say Good-bye. Get out some clean lined paper and hand-write all the things you wish you could still say. Positive and negative. Get it all out. Then step outside. Burn it over a candle, or tear it into pieces and let them fly away. Cry or pray or go for a walk. It’s over and it’s o.k.
Note: This is the first of a series. Stay tuned to read more about each of these seven ways.
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